Hard No’s

As you will soon come to find out, I'm a passionate person. When I commit to something I give it 100%. I also have some pretty firm beliefs and boundaries these days. I've recently come to realize boundaries are important for a healthy life. So these are some things I absolutely will not stand for:

Attacking others. I don't care what form or fashion you use, putting other people or groups down will not be tolerated. I read in between the lines and catch the passive aggressive comments. It is never okay to put others down. End of story. I don't care if you end goal is to save the pope. If you have to attack other people or belittle another group, you're wrong. I physically cannot hold my tongue when I witness it. So if you try to use my posts to spread hate, keep in mind standing up for others and attacking people are two very different things.

Blatant ignorance. I don't even know if this is a real thing but I separate ignorance into two categories- simple and blatant. Let me explain. I think of simple ignorance as simply not knowing. There are things I'm ignorant to because I simply don't know. But I realize I don't know and accept the knowledge from those that do. Which brings me to blatant ignorance. This is when someone who is unaware is presented with sound knowledge and refuses to accept it. That is something that makes my blood boil. And here's the thing, I don't expect you to believe me based on my word. There have been times I have given people countless reliable resources and they still refused to believe it! That blows my mind. And yes, I know the difference in a reliable source and a questionable source. I had a professor in college who would check sources to see if they were credible; and I now appreciate her for it. It's also not even about me. I can't even get started on some discussions that happened in class in college. All I can say is, yikes. Bless their heart.

And finally, self-centered, cocky people. We've all met this kind of person. They're the ones you can't teach a thing; they already know it of course. I'm the kind of person that believes every single person on this planet has knowledge to offer, whether they know it or not. I've learned more from children who had severe autism than I have some doctors. Everyone has knowledge to offer in some capacity. When I see people act like because of certain circumstances others have nothing to offer, all I can see is the ego. If you have to resort to insulting others to exert your intellectual superiority, are you really that intelligent? I would have missed out on some life changing lessons if I took this outlook. If you approach people with the mentality they might know things you don't that could even fill in some of your missing puzzle pieces, it opens the conversation up in a beautiful way. It's cliche, but you truly can't go wrong treating people the way you want to be treated. It's amazing to take that on full force and see the wonderful things that can happen.

I'm the kind of person that is open to any conversation, but I do expect there to be a certain level of respect involved. I won't ask others to do anything I'm not willing to do. As adults, we should be able to disagree on a topic and still have a civil, thoughtful conversation. Just my perspective :)

"The statistics on sanity are that one out of every four Americans is suffering from some form of mental illness. Think of your three best friends. If they're okay, then it's you." —Rita Mae Brown

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Miss. Misunderstood